Have you ever been in a situation where you didn’t want to do something and you really didn’t have a good reason as to why you didn’t want to do it?
And, no matter how hard you try to think of a logical reason or excuse, you just can’t find one because there is none. You literally don’t want to do it, just because.
I hate that phrase, “just because.” It’s so annoying! And whenever someone uses it with me, I always find myself pushing them for the “because” part of the answer. Because what? Because why? Because who? You can’t just leave me hanging on “just because.”
Until it happened to me. I couldn’t finish the thought, because I really didn’t have anything more to say. I didn’t want to do the task, just because I didn’t want to do it. There was no grand explanation.
And I find that honesty in a situation like that can either be refreshing, or it can be cruel. When I am trying to get out of something or avoid someone, I will come up with an excuse as to why I can’t make it. I feel like it’s so rude if someone were to invite me out and I said, “no, just because I don’t want to go out with you.” Well, that’s heinous. But on the flip side, I had a conversation with my roommates in the States and I had zero explanation for why I didn’t want to do what I didn’t want to do. There were so many positives to an alternate option that they gave me, and I just didn’t want to do it, when rationally, it would have made way more sense to just go along with their plan.
And I admitted that I didn’t have a good reason at all. And they appreciated that answer. It was like if I had made up a ton of bogus excuses, it would have sounded just like that; bogus excuses.
Pro-tip: saying, “just because” can work sometimes, but should be used in the company of people that it won’t offend or p*ss off.