So, I have this friend who I used to be really close to and now we hardly speak and I miss him a lot. I don’t want to seem random or awkward if I just reach out if he isn’t interested in still being friends. I don’t know what to do.
Well fan, looks like you have a little conundrum. I think that really, the only way to try to re-initiate a friendship, or any relationship for that matter, would be to reach out and tell the other party what you’re feeling or thinking.
You don’t have to be obvious and sceam out “I miss you so much!” But, you could be subtle and remind them of a good time that you once had. Send them a short little memory and start it with, “I was just thinking about that time that we…” and then finish the thought with, “that was a great (or insert any other adjective: crazy, wild, amazing, weird) time!” And then see where the conversation flows from there.
You never know, maybe they are feeling the exact same way. You might get back the best response and reconnect with that person way more than even you anticipated.
It’s all in the risk, as it is with most things. You’ll never know how your friend is feeling about your absence in each other’s lives unless you talk to them.
And if they don’t respond, well, then you know. And what harm have you done? Things aren’t going to worse if you already hardly speak and maybe you’re just different people now. Maybe you need this space. You never know when it could be them sending you the “I miss you” message at a random time in the future.
Stay positive and hope for a good outcome, old friends are a lot of fun to reminisce with, but you may not be on the same page to make new memories. Either way, there’s no harm in trying to reconnect.
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