To the Fan Whose Friends Should End Slut Shaming~

Question:

I know that they guy that I’ve been seeing has no problem telling his friends some of the sexual things that we do, but I feel embarrassed to tell my girlfriends. I feel like they will judge me.

Answer:

That sucks. I’m not saying that in a sarcastic way or as an innuendo. I genuinely mean that it’s unfortunate that you should feel that way.

No one should feel weird or odd or judged for the things that they do, especially by their friends.

Whoever started the stigma that women who discuss sex and sexual happenings are sluts is not only a total assh*le, but also completely¬†ignorant. If a woman is having safe, consensual sex or a pseudo sexual relationship, who the hell are we to judge her? Especially as a friend. When we sign on to friendship, we sign on to knowing the big things, as well as the littler details that sometimes, yeah, maybe we’ll cringe internally, but if they feel like they want to share with us, as a friend, we should listen with an open mind and a nonjudgmental spirit.

Give your personal opinion if it’s asked for, and if it’s not; keep your mouth shut and just be supportive. Don’t make your friend feel weird for something that they should not have to feel weird about.

XO, Maz

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http://ask.fm/mazforthefanz

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