To the Fan Who Thinks There’s No Tomorrow

Question:

What would you do today if there is no more tomorrow?

Answer:

If there was no tomorrow I don’t know what I would do. Is the world ending for everyone or is it just me? That would change some things.

If there was no tomorrow for me I would do some reckless sh*t. I would get a tattoo and I would drink heavily and try to fall in love. I would do something that I was always afraid to do, like skydiving or bungee jumping. I would do something so cool and people could talk about it for years to come.

If there was no tomorrow for anyone, I would throw a giant party for the people that I love. I would want to be with them all. But I also think that we should all be bombed and having a great time. Reminding each other how much we love one another before it’s all over.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Needs to Know About Flaws~

Question:

What is your biggest insecurity?

Answer:

Insecurities are a tough thing to talk about. We all have them, but when it’s something that we suffer from, we don’t want to bring it to the attention of other people and shine light on it when we are trying to forget or hide the flaw from ourselves.

I have major internal conflicts every other week about the fact that I don’t really know what I’m doing with my life and that I don’t have a set plan yet.

I have insecurities about outward appearance. Being a 21 year old female in a college setting, it’s hard not to compare myself to the people around me. It’s hard not to say, oh if only my hips were a little more slim, or if only my skin were a little more clear.

But then I have to step back and think about, do these things bother me or do they bother me because I think that it’s how I “should” appear based on popular society’s opinion on beauty in women my age?

I am a beautiful girl with a complex and witty personality. Sure, I may not always feel like I meet some star dad of physical beauty, but I know that I can set my own standard. If I am happy with myself and who I am, to hell with the opinion of others.

I feel fortunate that I am able to say these things, because not everyone can win their battle with body confidence. Not everyone can love the skin that their in. But there are organizations out there aimed at helping these people see their own beauty. There are people who want to help them thrive and understand that these blockades and walls that we put up internally, they can be knocked down. The National Organization for Anorexia Nervosa and Associated disorders is one of those organizations. I strongly encourage everyone, whether you suffer with issues in body confidence or eating disorders or you don’t, support this organization. Help save lives. Help spread the word that we are all beautiful, no matter what.

Check out ANAD’s webpage here: http://www.anad.org

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who’s Dealing With A Lot of Ghosts~

Question:

Going through issues with current boo and ex boo which ended on positive mutual vibes wants to reconnect. Also sights on potential new boo. What do you do?

Answer:

Listen. That is a lot of people in one go. And while most of me says, you know what, go for it! The rest of me needs more answers. From the very basic framework that you’ve laid out though, I can tell you what I would do.

Let’s just get one right off the table: the ex. No. Big nope. An ex is an ex for a reason. Though it ended on positive mutual vibes, it still ended. There’s no use dabbling back down that road. Because it could go well, and you could slip back into a comfortable familiarity, quickly, but in the long run, you’ll still remember the first break up and what caused it. It may put pressure on you to work harder as a couple or it could put a strain on the relationship. I say, leave the ex alone, if you’re friends, stay friends, but don’t move beyond that.

Okay, now let’s examine your current relationship: is it worth it? Are the issues small and easy to move beyond? Or are they big and really make you want out? If it’s the first part, then stick it out! I know that personally, once the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over, I start noticing all those little flaws that I thought were cute before and they start to annoy me. That’s when it becomes a choice. That’s when you have to choose to remember the good things and realize that we’re all human even if your partner slurps their cereal or never matches their socks. But, if it’s a situation where something major happened, like domestic violence or cheating, then, that’s when it is time to get out. No one deserves to be abused or cheated on and no one should ever feel that it’s okay to be a cheater or abuser.

And finally, the new one on the scene: New relationships can be fun. They can also be stressful and nerve-wracking as you sit and wait to decide if you should text or wait for them to text you. I also think that each relationship that you have, no matter the longevity, or lack-there-of, teaches you something about yourself. So, if things are very bad in your current relationship, where you’re looking for the out, maybe it is time that you move on and explore new and exciting opportunities. I do also think that if your eye is wandering away from your current relationship, that maybe it’s time that your honest with yourself and them.

I hope you sort it out, and I hope that it goes well, whatever you may choose!

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Wants to Go But Doesn’t Know How~

Question:

I’ve lived in one place my whole life and for the first time I want to get away. Should I go?

Answer:

In short, yes.

Go. See something. Explore.

Make mistakes and forgive yourself for those mistakes.

I think that it is so important for a person to see more of the world than their comfort zone. If I had it my way, citizenship wouldn’t be an issue and everyone could just live where they please, when they please.

Personally, I was always encouraged to travel growing up. Well, by my mom and step dad at least. The world was my oyster and they wanted me to go explore it. And now, at the age of 21, I’ve seen more foreign countries than I have seen states in my own country, which I’m also working on.

I have lived on a different continent than my comfort zone and at first, it was a scary idea. Being so far away from my family and established friends, but guess what? You make new friends and you get to build your own family. It’s not as big of a deal as it’s hyped up to be. And I always know that my biological family is a FaceTime call away. I don’t have the luxury of being able to just fly home for a weekend because flights are hella expensive, but when I do get a chance to go back and see my family and friends, it is way more meaningful and we have more to catch up on and we enjoy our time together more than if I am living an hour away from them by car and visiting every couple of days.

So, even though it may seem like a huge leap, and at first, yeah, you will get homesick and it might suck a little bit, but once you’re past that and you find where you belong in a new ecosystem, it changes you. It makes you realize things about you that you may not have found in your own backyard. It helps you to grow. It helps you to learn. It helps you to figure out who “you” are.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Wants to Know About Chinese Food~

Question:

What do you want right now?

Answer:

Well, you could refer to the Christmas list that I wrote last week or I could talk about some other things that I’d really like at the moment.

I’m sort of torn between Mexican food and Chinese food, I could also really go for some Pho.

Right now, I’d also really like for the stress breakout that is disrupting my face to go away.

I’d like for my bag back to Philly to pack itself.

For my nervousness to cease existing so that I can go back to being carefree and stupid.

For my inspiration to come back. I don’t know what happened but it’s like I’ve hit a brick wall. I don’t want to take another hiatus, but I am struggling to find any type of writing inspiration. Maybe I need to get my heart broken again or find something to fall in love with, whether it’s a hobby, a place or a book. I just need to do something.

I want something I guess. I just don’t know what that something is.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Needs to Know About Life~

Question:

Why do some people enjoy life and others don’t?

Answer:

Simple. Some people are lovers of life other people are just livers of life.

Wow liver. Gross.

But what I mean is that some people enjoy everything for what it is in that moment. They love the life that they are living and live it to its fullest. They are not content with settling and hunt for the best thing out there, finding new adventures or hobbies or interests in life’s extraordinary ecosystem of opportunity.

And some people live life mundanely, dreading each passing day because either they don’t know what’s out there or they don’t care to look for something better.

I think everyone has a tendency to fall into both categories from time to time. I definitely have my days where I can’t be bothered to get out of bed for more than an hour. BUT I also have this insatiable wanderlust. I want to see what there is in the world. I can’t settle because what if by settling I miss out on the greatest thing that could ever happen to me?

Just some food for thought.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who’s Afraid of the Hook Up~

Question:

How do you overcome hooking up with a guy you like even though you have a fear that it might be bad?

Answer:

Hey fan,

This is tough. Fear and insecurities riddle through us all before the first time that we kiss someone. And since everyone has a different use for the term “hook up”, I am taking this as a heavy make out session, maybe with some feel-skis thrown in, not a full home run; so we’re clear.

But, let’s examine a few things: you like this person. So, I’d say that means there must be some sort of, type of flow or chemistry; unless this a situation where you’ve just been liking them from afar, well then, I suggest establishing some sort of connection, whether its casual flirting or even taking the time to actually develop a real friendship.

As for the fear of it being “bad”, I think that sometimes we’re off our game. Sometimes we are super on it; but other times, we kind of need a reset. I think that if you do finally get the opportunity to kiss this guy, well go for it. Don’t overthink it, just go for it. If it’s bad; then I’d say that it could be potentially due to nerves. There have been plenty of times when I’ve thought about a hook up after the fact, and I just kind of laugh and say, “who the f*ck was that? I don’t do that or act like that.” But, I was nervous or they were and it threw off the equilibrium of a good make out session. I think that a good way to tell would be a round two. If you get through a date or a hangout or whatever, with a bad make out, but you still feel like you clicked with the person in another way; then try again another day.

Chalk it up to nerves and give it a second go.

If on the second go it’s still bad, well then, maybe you need to reevaluate. Or teach that person a little something-something about kissing.

XO, Maz

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