To the Fan Who Thinks There’s No Tomorrow

Question:

What would you do today if there is no more tomorrow?

Answer:

If there was no tomorrow I don’t know what I would do. Is the world ending for everyone or is it just me? That would change some things.

If there was no tomorrow for me I would do some reckless sh*t. I would get a tattoo and I would drink heavily and try to fall in love. I would do something that I was always afraid to do, like skydiving or bungee jumping. I would do something so cool and people could talk about it for years to come.

If there was no tomorrow for anyone, I would throw a giant party for the people that I love. I would want to be with them all. But I also think that we should all be bombed and having a great time. Reminding each other how much we love one another before it’s all over.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Wants to Know About My Skills~

Question:

What is something you wish you were better at?

Answer:

I’m pretty great at a lot of things, as most people are. But, of course there are things that I wish that I was a little better at doing.

While I love how sassy and sarcastic I can be, I really wish that I was better at expressing emotion in a way that truly displays how I feel. I’m funny, but sometimes my funniness leads to dishonesty about what is really going on in my head. I feel like I am really good at detecting this is other people. I can normally see the emotions in someone’s face or eyes, even if they are cracking a joke and call them out on it. I like to call that my emotional intelligence with other people. But, my own capability of hiding that, leads to a lot of bottled up frustration, which leads to overthinking and ultimately, when the emotions do seep through, it’s in a very big way. It happens very rarely, but when it does, it’s almost nearly the end of the world, each time.

So, I guess, I’d like to get better at handling the ups and downs at a steady pace as opposed to handling the total fallout every once in a while.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who’s Dealing With A Lot of Ghosts~

Question:

Going through issues with current boo and ex boo which ended on positive mutual vibes wants to reconnect. Also sights on potential new boo. What do you do?

Answer:

Listen. That is a lot of people in one go. And while most of me says, you know what, go for it! The rest of me needs more answers. From the very basic framework that you’ve laid out though, I can tell you what I would do.

Let’s just get one right off the table: the ex. No. Big nope. An ex is an ex for a reason. Though it ended on positive mutual vibes, it still ended. There’s no use dabbling back down that road. Because it could go well, and you could slip back into a comfortable familiarity, quickly, but in the long run, you’ll still remember the first break up and what caused it. It may put pressure on you to work harder as a couple or it could put a strain on the relationship. I say, leave the ex alone, if you’re friends, stay friends, but don’t move beyond that.

Okay, now let’s examine your current relationship: is it worth it? Are the issues small and easy to move beyond? Or are they big and really make you want out? If it’s the first part, then stick it out! I know that personally, once the honeymoon phase of a relationship is over, I start noticing all those little flaws that I thought were cute before and they start to annoy me. That’s when it becomes a choice. That’s when you have to choose to remember the good things and realize that we’re all human even if your partner slurps their cereal or never matches their socks. But, if it’s a situation where something major happened, like domestic violence or cheating, then, that’s when it is time to get out. No one deserves to be abused or cheated on and no one should ever feel that it’s okay to be a cheater or abuser.

And finally, the new one on the scene: New relationships can be fun. They can also be stressful and nerve-wracking as you sit and wait to decide if you should text or wait for them to text you. I also think that each relationship that you have, no matter the longevity, or lack-there-of, teaches you something about yourself. So, if things are very bad in your current relationship, where you’re looking for the out, maybe it is time that you move on and explore new and exciting opportunities. I do also think that if your eye is wandering away from your current relationship, that maybe it’s time that your honest with yourself and them.

I hope you sort it out, and I hope that it goes well, whatever you may choose!

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Wants to Go But Doesn’t Know How~

Question:

I’ve lived in one place my whole life and for the first time I want to get away. Should I go?

Answer:

In short, yes.

Go. See something. Explore.

Make mistakes and forgive yourself for those mistakes.

I think that it is so important for a person to see more of the world than their comfort zone. If I had it my way, citizenship wouldn’t be an issue and everyone could just live where they please, when they please.

Personally, I was always encouraged to travel growing up. Well, by my mom and step dad at least. The world was my oyster and they wanted me to go explore it. And now, at the age of 21, I’ve seen more foreign countries than I have seen states in my own country, which I’m also working on.

I have lived on a different continent than my comfort zone and at first, it was a scary idea. Being so far away from my family and established friends, but guess what? You make new friends and you get to build your own family. It’s not as big of a deal as it’s hyped up to be. And I always know that my biological family is a FaceTime call away. I don’t have the luxury of being able to just fly home for a weekend because flights are hella expensive, but when I do get a chance to go back and see my family and friends, it is way more meaningful and we have more to catch up on and we enjoy our time together more than if I am living an hour away from them by car and visiting every couple of days.

So, even though it may seem like a huge leap, and at first, yeah, you will get homesick and it might suck a little bit, but once you’re past that and you find where you belong in a new ecosystem, it changes you. It makes you realize things about you that you may not have found in your own backyard. It helps you to grow. It helps you to learn. It helps you to figure out who “you” are.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Wants to Know About Chinese Food~

Question:

What do you want right now?

Answer:

Well, you could refer to the Christmas list that I wrote last week or I could talk about some other things that I’d really like at the moment.

I’m sort of torn between Mexican food and Chinese food, I could also really go for some Pho.

Right now, I’d also really like for the stress breakout that is disrupting my face to go away.

I’d like for my bag back to Philly to pack itself.

For my nervousness to cease existing so that I can go back to being carefree and stupid.

For my inspiration to come back. I don’t know what happened but it’s like I’ve hit a brick wall. I don’t want to take another hiatus, but I am struggling to find any type of writing inspiration. Maybe I need to get my heart broken again or find something to fall in love with, whether it’s a hobby, a place or a book. I just need to do something.

I want something I guess. I just don’t know what that something is.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Who Needs to Know About Life~

Question:

Why do some people enjoy life and others don’t?

Answer:

Simple. Some people are lovers of life other people are just livers of life.

Wow liver. Gross.

But what I mean is that some people enjoy everything for what it is in that moment. They love the life that they are living and live it to its fullest. They are not content with settling and hunt for the best thing out there, finding new adventures or hobbies or interests in life’s extraordinary ecosystem of opportunity.

And some people live life mundanely, dreading each passing day because either they don’t know what’s out there or they don’t care to look for something better.

I think everyone has a tendency to fall into both categories from time to time. I definitely have my days where I can’t be bothered to get out of bed for more than an hour. BUT I also have this insatiable wanderlust. I want to see what there is in the world. I can’t settle because what if by settling I miss out on the greatest thing that could ever happen to me?

Just some food for thought.

XO, Maz

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To the Fan Interested in Reflection~

Question:

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?

Answer:

Thank you for this question.

When I look in the mirror, I see a woman, but I don’t see me.

I see blondish hair, blueish eyes, hips that might be a little too wide for some but work for me, nice lips, a killer pair of shoes, some blemishes and scars, eyebrows on fleek and other superficial things.

I stared at myself. I stared for a while. And I thought about how when someone doesn’t know me, that’s the first impression that they get. Only what they see.

When I look a little harder I notice other things too.

I see years of laughter in the lines near my mouth.

I see the future making me slouch by weighing down my shoulders.

I see bruises and cuts scattering my body from all the clumsy times I trip or walk into something.

I see a hint of skepticism in the purse of my lip.

I see a sadness in my eyes, which could be misdiagnosed as anger or detachment by a stranger.

I see how hard I work to try to look together most of the time, even when I’d rather be in my bed. Even when I’d rather be stuffing my face with pizza. Even when I’d rather look at videos of baby otters. Even when I just don’t want to see or speak or look at another human being for upwards of 3 years.

I see me.

XO, Maz

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